We all care what other people think of us, right? That’s not necessarily a bad thing. However, if you’re the kind of person who often needs validation from outsiders, you’re only making you’re life harder. If you’re looking for true happiness and positivity, you’ll need to find that validation within yourself.
So if you find yourself in a daily battle of finding the motivation to keep yourself going, consider these 3 reasons why you honestly shouldn’t give AF about what other people think:
1 – Nobody Knows You Better Than YOU Know You
There is not a single person in this world that knows you better than you know yourself. It’s for that reason alone that your mindset should take precedent over anyone else’s.
It’s imperative that you set aside time to get to know yourself better. It’s important to not only know how you feel, but why you feel that way. Fully understand what matters the most to you, understand what you’ve been through and what you’ve learned, etc. This self-knowledge and acceptance is key to your success and personal happiness.
2 – What’s Good for Them, Isn’t Necessarily What’s Good for YOU
You aren’t them.
Let me repeat that for those in the back…
YOU aren’t THEM.
Look, what works for someone else, may not be what’s best for you. Everyone has an opinion, and while people may have your best interests in mind, you should never feel an obligation to do something just because someone told you that you should.
In life, I feel personally, that there is no “right answer”. There is no one way to go about doing things. Everyone is different. And while another person’s advice or insight may be useful, they are not living your life… you are.
3 – Other People Probably Don’t Care as Much as You Think They Do
This one might be the toughest pill to swallow, at least it is for me sometimes. Quite often I find myself in my head worrying about the thoughts of other people, when in actuality, most of the time, they probably don’t care. I catch myself overthinking many situations. And I end up stopping myself and thinking, “I don’t think that person cares about my outfit choice today as I think they do.”
I totally get it… someone makes a face, or you read a text message the wrong way, and all of a sudden you’re in your head. But let’s be real, chances are, they aren’t thinking what you think they’re thinking.
As someone who constantly stuggles with anxiety, I probably struggle with this one the most, but I’ve gotten a lot better over the years.
Be confident in what you offer and the unnecessary “noise” will fade away.
Tips on How to Not Give AF
For your reading pleasure, I’ve compiled 10 ways I go about not giving AF on a daily basis. It may not be for everyone, but it certainly works for me:
- I understand that the negativity says more about the other person than it says about me.
- I understand that I only have one life to live. Do I want to spend it worrying about what others think? Or am I going to live my best life?
- I fully ignore and remove the negative in my life as soon as it makes an appearance. I carry on unfazed.
- I have a select group of people who’s opinions I trust. Everyone else… “Thank you for your input. Kbye.”
- I understand fully that not everyone is going to like me… there’s nothing I can do about it… and that is okay.
- I know that I am doing my best at all times.
- I accept that I am human and that I bound to make mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes. I accept that, and I grow from it.
- I fully understand that I can’t please everybody.
- I know that I am NOT defined by others. I define myself.
- I accept the fact that popularity doesn’t equal happiness.
At the end of the day…
When you lay down at the end of your day, after everything you went through, know this: only you can validate how you feel. The minute you start accepting that internal validation, the better you’ll feel when you close your eyes.
YOU GOT THIS.