My name is Kyrus and I am an empath. What does that mean? It means that I am highly aware of the emotions of the people that are around me, so much so, that it can sometimes feel like I am feeling those emotions myself. It’s one of the craziest feelings in the world, I must admit.
People like me, empaths, see the world a little bit differently that most people out there. We are quite sensitive to people’s feelings, their pain, their happiness, their emotions. It feels like a surreal superpower being able to sit here and say, “I understand you. I feel you.” Even though we’re literally not you.
To be honest, I don’t know exactly how this all works. I don’t know what causes it. I don’t even know what my full capabilities are. I can’t even sit here and tell you whether it’s a blessing or if it’s a curse, because Lord knows that I experience both the pros and the cons of being an empath on a daily basis.
All I can do is sit here and tell you that it’s helped propel my life and my career forward. Because of my empath personality, I truly believe that I have a better understanding of the people around me. I feel more capable to resolve conflicts. And most importantly, I am overtly aware of the hurt people can cause me and I have caused others. And because of that, I’ve become a better person.
The benefits of being an empath are countless. So whether you’re considered an empath or not, you can still increase your empath abilities. So today, I’d like to sit and chat with you about the 5 things you can do to be a better empath.
1 – Stop Hearing & Start Listening
Hearing someone is simply comprehending sound in the ear. Hearing is something just simply happens. Listening, however, is something that you purposefully choose to do. The more you are able to listen, the better you will be at understanding the person’s emotions and empathizing with their feelings.
2 – Find Things in Common with the Other Person
We spend a lot of time focusing on what makes us different. As an empath, it’s important to focus on what you actually have in common with the other person. Empathy doesn’t come from keeping people at arm’s length, but by finding ways to be spiritually closer to them.
3 – Embrace Your Curiosity
People that know me well know that I am probably one of the most curious people on this planet. It’s one of the reasons why I started a podcast, simply for the sake of asking people questions and learning as much as possible. The more questions you ask about a person or a situation, the better understanding you’ll have. With understanding comes the ability to easily empathize.
4 – Read More Fiction
I was just having a conversation with a friend of mine about the types of books we like to read. I was emphatic in my love for fictional books. By reading fiction, you’re stretching your imagination beyond what you may experience in real life. Believe it or not, understanding the life of a fictional character will actually give you the tools to understand the life of someone in real life.
5 – Put Yourself in the Other Person’s Shoes
I mean, I think this one goes without saying… but it’s important. If you take a moment and try to see life from the perspective of someone that’s not you, you might be able to understand why they are the way they are, or why they think the way they think, or why they take the actions they take.
Whether you consider yourself an empath or not, you will always have the ability to feel what other people feel, even if you aren’t capable of going through what they are going through. You are a human being, and so are they. Embrace that, find common ground, and work through life together.
Much Love. Good Vibes.