If you’ve ever felt “different” your whole life but couldn’t explain why, you’re not alone. This is something Nikki knows all too well. Her ADHD story isn’t just about a diagnosis, it’s about decades of not having the language or support to understand herself.
Growing up in the 70s, ADHD wasn’t a term people used for girls. Nikki was called distracted, lazy, or even shy. What people didn’t see was the constant mental juggling, the exhaustion from masking, and the frustration of feeling misunderstood. She wasn’t “bad” at life—she just didn’t know she had ADHD.
Finally Finding Answers
It wasn’t until adulthood that Nikki learned she had ADHD. That diagnosis changed everything. Suddenly, all the moments that didn’t make sense in her life started to click into place. And that’s the thing, when you finally understand why your brain works the way it does, it’s like getting the manual you never knew you needed.
For Nikki, this meant she could stop beating herself up over every “failure” and start working with her brain instead of against it.
Why Late Diagnosis Hits Different
Getting diagnosed later in life can feel like a mix of relief and grief. Relief because you finally have an explanation. Grief because you think about how different your life might have been if you had known sooner. Nikki’s story reminds us that both feelings are valid.
When I was first diagnosed, I had the same experience. I’m not a mental health professional, but I can tell you firsthand that giving yourself grace is the first step. You can’t change the past, but you can absolutely change how you move forward.
Tips Inspired by Nikki’s Journey
Here are some ways you can take Nikki’s experience and put it into action:
- Educate yourself – Learn about ADHD from credible sources like CHADD or ADDitude Magazine.
- Adjust your environment – Instead of relying on willpower, set up your surroundings to support focus.
- Embrace your introversion – If you recharge alone, that’s valid. Make space for it.
- Find your tools – Whether it’s a planner, timers, or apps, experiment until you find what works for you.
- Connect with others – Talking to people who “get it” can make a world of difference.
If you want more ideas like this, my guidebook Navigating ADHD & Adulthood is filled with strategies and stories to help you manage life with ADHD.
You’re Not Alone
Nikki’s story is one of millions. ADHD looks different for everyone, but the core feeling of wanting to be understood is universal. And that’s why I share these stories, so you know you’re part of a community that sees you and values you.
If you’re ready to tell your own story, I’d love to hear it. Visit https://thevibewithky.com/share-your-mental-health-story/ to share it safely and anonymously.
Recap
Nikki’s journey from decades of misunderstanding to finally finding her ADHD diagnosis shows that it’s never too late to learn about yourself.
5 Key Takeaways:
- Late ADHD diagnosis can bring both relief and grief.
- Self-education is essential to managing symptoms.
- Adjust your environment to work with your brain.
- Embracing introversion is a valid form of self-care.
- Connecting with others can reduce feelings of isolation.
Actionable Items
- Read one credible ADHD resource this week.
- Try one new tool or habit to improve daily focus.
- Schedule downtime to recharge.
- Join an ADHD support group online or locally.
FAQ
Q. Can ADHD really go undiagnosed for decades?
A. Yes. Especially in women and girls, symptoms are often misunderstood or overlooked.
Q. Is late diagnosis worth it?
A. Absolutely. Understanding yourself can help you create better systems, routines, and self-compassion moving forward.
Q. How do I know if I might have ADHD?
A. Only a licensed professional can diagnose ADHD, but you can start by learning about symptoms and seeking an evaluation.
Much love. Good vibes. – Ky
